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8.20.2010

180 days

Six months is a pretty short amount of time.  Somewhere around 180 days, give or take a few.  Not much in the grand scheme of a lifetime.

But six months in the context of a budding mother/daughter relationship?  Six months in the love of a forever family powered up by the all-encompassing redemptive love of God?  Now that's a whole 'nother story!

I could write volumes, but I think that pictures convey much of what could be said...

Feb 20 ~ realizing the uphill battle we were going to face

Aug 13 ~ a moment of equal adoration captured on film

Feb 20 ~ a child in struggle to escape from my arms

Aug 13 ~ a child content to be held

Feb 20 ~ being held; uneasy feelings as siblings

Aug 10 ~ holding on; comfortable in sibling relationships

Feb 21 ~ obvious unease about new family

Aug 10 ~ secure as part of the M five
We're not "all the way there" just yet.  There are still moments that I know she doesn't trust me, or the rest of us, completely.  Occasionally it feels that we haven't fully found our rhythm as mother and daughter, or as a family with five members.

But this week I uploaded our China trip pictures to Snapfish so I can begin working on Darcy's travel album.  As I did,  I reflected what those first hours and days were like.  And in looking back, I found myself in awe of how far we've come in such a short time.

I offer praise and thanksgiving to the God who grafted this child into our family.  The grafting doesn't come without the pain of adjustment for all involved.  But as the wounds of change begin to heal, something new and beautiful is created.  In this case it is our family. 

Happy six month anniversary to my Darcy Q!

20 comments:

Football and Fried Rice said...

Isn't it amazing what you can learn just by reflecting on your photos? How far you've really come? I met a strong willed little girl who was reluctant to love me 18 months ago and now - you would never know that we both had our "doubts" about how it was all going to work out ;)

I love seeing the love you & Darcy have for each other!

Ann Marie said...

Adoption is hard and adding another personality to the mix always is a challenge. Darcy looks beautiful in your family and in your arms. So glad the hardest part of adjustment is over! (Wish we could fast forward.) :)

Andrea said...

I could see it even back in May. Happy 180 days!

Donna said...

Happy 180 days!!! All good relationships take time - and Darcy couldn't help but thrive in your family!!! You all are so blessed to have each other!!!
Love to all!!

Stefanie said...

Love this, Kristi!! So beautiful what He can do in His time :)

Bekah said...

Happy 6 months! We need to get together! My new email is rebekahcrowell@rocketmail.com Shoot me an email when you get a chance. I lost all of my contacts so i can't find your address. Talk to you soon! Love and miss you all!

Di said...

Wow - 6 months already! Happy 6 months Darcy - to many more happy months, years and decades as a family!

Jenn said...

Oh my! Those pictures just made me cry like a baby! The Lord is so good. So good.

Nancy said...

Wow, that's awesome! I forget that she hasn't been home that long. The five of you were meant to be!

Glenda said...

This thing is one amazing journey isn't it?? So grateful that the Lord has led us this way. Sure has been a fast 6 months. We love Miss Darcy!

Emily said...

This just makes my heart happy!

Heather said...

Catching up on your blog after vacation! I loved seeing Darcy's progress pics! It is nothing short of amazing how resilient kids are. She is happy and confident now. BTW, so jealous of your beautiful beach pics! I just loved seeing them!

Nicole said...

Another milestone of many! Congratulations!! It's a beautiful thing to be "on your way"!!

The Ferrill's said...

Kristi these pictures just make me cry! Oh the transformation is miraculous! And I love the product of the grafting.....FAMILY! YOUR family! I love your family!
emailing you later....

Heather said...

Happy 6 month anniversary! And boy oh boy did I need to see this. As we prepare to travel my heart is heavy knowing the uphill journey we are on and some days my mind plays tricks on me, ha, and tells me that is all there will be, uphill. I could feel the tension slip away as I looked these over - what a difference in 6 months, so very beautiful.

Our Journey to China said...

Love the pictures, love all of you! And we too are grateful God has brought you together and allowed us the privilege to know you all! God is truly good, all the time. Grafting is difficult at times, and thankfully, God is always there. Again, as with Laine's blog, I am crying and cannot stop. Thank you, Jesus for ALL you have done! Love to you all!!

Traci said...

WE love you Darcy! We had a great time with you guys at the beach! Adoption is a beautiful gift for all involved!

C.C. said...

Wow, has it only been 6 months?! Happy 6 months Darcy!!

Grandma Shultz said...

How can it be just 180 days. Seems like precious Darcy has been with you for several years. She has come from being afraid and mistrusting to being a safe and secure part of her forever famliy.
Darcy, you are so precious. Grandma loves you so much!

I am five times blessed with adoption!!! Praise God for putting all of you together as families.

Melissa said...

Happy Belated 6 month anniversary Darcy!!! I can remember so clearly following your journey and seeing your family come together for the first time with Darcy! Pictures tell it all - and what an amazing family you have become! Can't wait to see 6 months from NOW!