A year (and a day) ago, a month ago

March 19, 2009.  I'll never forget that day.  It was a Thursday. 

The previous Friday I was researching some adoption agencies and their waiting children programs for when we were "ready" to start the process again.  By accident I found myself on one agency's list of children and was very drawn to a little girl listed as Payton.  But her "special need" was daunting, she was so close in age to my kiddos at home, and besides we weren't ready yet.  So life as I knew it continued, busy chasing after my newly turned three year old and my two and a half year old.

And then Thursday happened.  I find that I forget a lot of things these days.  But I will never in all my life forget the conviction in Kylie's voice as she told me that day that her two year old sister was waiting for us in China and that we had to hurry and get there soon.  (Entire conversation recorded here).  

So the next day, Friday, March 20, 2009 I got curious and sent an email letting them know who I was and requesting a "little more" information on Payton from the agency.  I think I expected their understanding of her diagnosis and maybe a birth date.  Imagine my surprise when I checked my email that night and saw that I had an email from the agency's International Adoption Specialist that contained her entire file.  I was standing in the kitchen as Ian put the dishes in the dishwasher when I saw her pictures clearly (they were blurred on the website) for the first time. 

I think that I knew right then that she was our Darcy.   I suppose that thought was reflected in the email I sent to Ian later that night as we sat side by side on the couch, he engrossed in a very complex problem with a rapidly approaching deadline at work.  It said,

"All I ask is that you look at her referral information and pray.  She is two, just like Kylie said...

I love you!"

And I didn't bring her up again for fear of "pushing Ian" into beginning the process before he believed we were ready.  It was SO HARD, but I knew that if Payton was indeed our Darcy that God would have Ian on board.  Almost two weeks later we were going on a treasured date night and I knew our future when we sat down at the restaurant and Ian said, "So lets talk about Payton..."

Before I knew it we were requesting a waiver to begin the process "early."  And while many parts of it went MUCH SLOWER than I wanted, it was pretty cool that we met Darcy on a Saturday (usually meeting day is on a Monday) exactly 11 months after I asked about her and then later read her file. 

Since that day we've been figuring out our groove as a family of five.  There have been some really ugly moments, but there have been many more beautiful ones.

And then today we reached the one month mark.  One month ago today our worlds merged.  And it also marks one year and one day since Kylie made her proclamation that her sister was out there.  I think having a little sister looks good on her...
Amazing how God sometimes speaks though the little ones, isn't it?


Glenda said...

It is wonderful that you followed God's leading, even when it didn't make sense. Darcy is wonderful, and no doubt, meant to be a part of your family.

Andrea said...

1. She is definitely a Darcy instead of a Payton.
2. SO glad there aren't any ROV happening on this return home.
3. Darcy looks the same size as her "big" sister! ;-)

You are writing this story so beautifully. Make sure you print it all out in a photobook!

Lilly said...

Just catching up as we returned from China 2 nights ago. Still can't sleep the normal hours.

So happy to see you family of five all together and specially Kylie's dream come true! I so understand the not so happy moments. I am learning from you to fake it until you feel it. Just keeping it real and it will get ugly on Monday when we visit the Pediatrician.

Praying for all of us and some sanity in between! LOL!

Ann Marie said...

God does speak through little ones and I believe that kids do "get" adoption with their whole heart much better than adults do. I am so glad that your peas in a pod are getting along nicely. Having kids close in age is SO much fun isn't it. :)

Ann Marie

Heather said...

I had to comment on this. It is sooo true that God often speaks to our little ones before He speaks to us. Maybe He think we are more likely to listen? Our daughter, who was 4 at the time, asked me out of the blue when he baby brother was coming home. I kind of thought it was an odd way of asking for something. She then prayed EVERY SINGLE NIGHT without prompting for her baby brother to come home soon. Yeah, God sometimes has to hit us over the head for us to pay attn.! One year later, Grant came home from Kaz. Ally never stopped praying. Thank you Jesus for her tender heart!

Nancy said...

I remember reading about Kylie talking about her little sister previously and was like WOW! Now that Darcy is here, its so neat to see them all together. Kylie knew!

Tricia said...

That last picture is so cute!

Shonni said...

It is always amazing how the LORD brings our children to us! And the last picture is so cute.

Grandma Shultz said...

"Out of the mouth of babes". Darcy was definitely to be a part of your family. Praise God that you and Ian answered God's call by first listening and then obeying.
Love, LaoLao

Laurie said...

How I LOVE this post! God's timing is amazing!! Now I'd just be nervous about Kylie's next "vision". :)

TanyaLea said...

I loved reading your story and learning more about how "Darcy" came to be part of your family. So neat! She is definitely a beautiful fit!! :)

God is good! <><