tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post331925275360761795..comments2023-09-25T05:02:23.495-04:00Comments on Fireworks and Fireflies: How's it REALLY going?Kristihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01233594585633157052noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-89348270830916645242008-11-21T00:01:00.000-05:002008-11-21T00:01:00.000-05:00Hi Kristi, Thank you for being so real and totally...Hi Kristi, Thank you for being so real and totally "Kristi" with the rest of us. I love your honesty. These same things happen when you get #2 bio child as well. When Clayton(#2 bio)was born, I felt that loss you mentioned between Morgan and us. However, 15 3/4 years later, it is clear that a sibling is one of the best gifts you can give any child. Clayton has now been displaced with Zach and Luke but I love to see him interacting with them and the things he is learning in the process. I love you and your family and feel honored to have spent our "firsts" together in China when we got all of our boys!!! Tina <BR/>www.journeytozachandluke.blogspot.comTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07787568287390183918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-24361930073380366022008-11-17T11:53:00.000-05:002008-11-17T11:53:00.000-05:00Oh my...my heart aches for you, and then I smile b...Oh my...my heart aches for you, and then I smile because it is all so "normal." You are a fabulous momma just as Cindy said. While your love grows and there is always enough for all of your children, there are definitely times when it feels like there's just not enough time or energy. I'm praying for a peaceful week with your mom there. Thank God for Mothers!<BR/>Much Love,<BR/>TriciaTriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956471508221132139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-83139379638307978962008-11-16T19:10:00.000-05:002008-11-16T19:10:00.000-05:00I wish you were closer! I would help out in anyway...I wish you were closer! I would help out in anyway I could! I miss my bug so much! And I wish I had the chance to know Caleb that well too. :(<BR/>Love ya<BR/>TraciAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-35584590398028235502008-11-15T12:04:00.000-05:002008-11-15T12:04:00.000-05:00Hi Kristi,That sucks! You just must be exhausted m...Hi Kristi,<BR/><BR/>That sucks! You just must be exhausted mentally & physically (not just recently but also the pre-trip stuff catching up to you). I feel bad you have so much to deal with.<BR/><BR/>Noah and I are praying for you at every nap time!!!<BR/><BR/>Hang in there, friend!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14189747146633744181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-53541087684216344372008-11-15T01:16:00.000-05:002008-11-15T01:16:00.000-05:00I know poor Anah has never really known life witho...I know poor Anah has never really known life without Sera since she was so young when she was born. However I do remember when she first realized Sera wasn't just a baby doll. It will get better. I think it's great you are able to verbalize what is happening.<BR/><BR/>I must say I can't imagine Ian being anything but happy. Even his frustrating moments seems joyous to me. I will say that God is able to do the most work in our lives when we have the greatest challenges. I figure it is easy to worship him when things are great, but it's what we do in the tough times that counts. Keep your faith strong and know that it will pass. Wednesday may seem like a long time a way now, but after all you have been through, Wednesday is just around the corner.<BR/><BR/>Enjoy the time with your mom. It will be great to have the help. It is okay to admit you need it. Besides her loving the grandkids, I think she will enjoy the time with her oldest daughter as well. <BR/><BR/>Can't wait to see you guys!<BR/><BR/>BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-64710226644946225862008-11-15T00:34:00.000-05:002008-11-15T00:34:00.000-05:00Well, everybody else already said all the sappy st...Well, everybody else already said all the sappy stuff, so...<BR/><BR/>If you're really gonna be real, we'll need photographic evidence...I know only too well the changes that come with more than one child...where's that pile of laundry? I wanna see the kitchen sink mid-afternoon. And how 'bout the living room floor scattered with toys? :-) I can say this because, if you'll remember right, I had a really pretty picture of our kitchen sink shortly after returning from China. And I couldn't stay awake past 9 pm for at least a month...and I'm a night owl!<BR/><BR/>Now, seriously, all those emotions are just growing pains. As your family grows, so does your heart. I know you, and I know you're a fabulous momma to BOTH kids! And it's just one of many stages you'll mourn in Kylie's life...take it from this mom of highschoolers. <BR/><BR/>One more thing...maybe there's something in the air, because just about a month ago, Caroline went from a 99% charming bundle of joy from sun up to sun down to a fiesty resemblance of the China Syndrome, only this time with words I understand. I sadly fear the "threes" are upon us, and, naturally, she would be ahead of the game. So maybe Kylie's just playing some of that out, along with all the changes she's had in the last month or so. She has had a LOT, and I think she's done great! And when we had Abby, Mindy went from being an angel to being a challenge for a few weeks, and then it leveled out. <BR/><BR/>Finally, Jon's comment, when I shared your feelings about now having two kids and the reality of it? "Yep, it's a tie game, now." :-) Don't worry...we're losing, 2 to 4. <BR/><BR/>And this concludes the longest blog comment ever... love ya!Cindy Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03909636830406739852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-40451915040582410682008-11-14T23:16:00.000-05:002008-11-14T23:16:00.000-05:00I'm glad you're sharing too. I always tried to be...I'm glad you're sharing too. I always tried to be truthful on my blog when we got home because it was NOT easy! You'll be glad you write all this stuff down later, I promise.<BR/>I am thinking of all of you!Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08901397279528652995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-12136588835371352022008-11-14T22:57:00.000-05:002008-11-14T22:57:00.000-05:00I think when your children read this post one day ...I think when your children read this post one day they will see how beautifully real your family is. Adding a new child to any family is a massive thing...when you pile on the move and Ian's unavoidable stress...You're both amazing! Keep your chin up and enjoy this precious time with your mom! I love you! JenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-10441587497989085992008-11-14T22:06:00.000-05:002008-11-14T22:06:00.000-05:00Thank you for the honesty, Kristi! I feel SO selfi...Thank you for the honesty, Kristi! I feel SO selfish saying this, but it's really helping me feel more prepared for my own changes coming up. I KNOW Kylie will get back to normal soon. It's just a lot of change. You know her heart, and it's a beautiful one. It will return. And YES, you are normal (or we're both weird) for loving your son but missing what you had with your daughter alone. I am already feeling it and I haven't even met my son yet. Hang in there! And tell Ian to hang in there too- man, you guys need a vacation! :)Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00980828749135451472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-6287670908843634062008-11-14T21:28:00.000-05:002008-11-14T21:28:00.000-05:00Hang in there! Having your mom around always help...Hang in there! Having your mom around always help things (it always helps me!). Everyone will adjust & you guys will find your new normal. I go to bed around 9pm all the time!!<BR/>Jen Vinyard<BR/>AWAA familyThe Vinyardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01591059054023053822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-64472193272715408872008-11-14T20:06:00.000-05:002008-11-14T20:06:00.000-05:00I am so sorry. So happy your mom is coming. And ...I am so sorry. So happy your mom is coming. And I have been going to bed before 10 ever since we got home ( a couple of times before 8:30.) I haven't done that since I was in elementary school;-)<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your raw honesty. I love you lots!!C.C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08402464314779765145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-77659735957972132782008-11-14T18:11:00.000-05:002008-11-14T18:11:00.000-05:00Have no fear. These feelings happen to every mom....Have no fear. These feelings happen to every mom... and I think every big sister experiences the emotions and tantrums Kylie is. Ivy had 9 months to prepare for Zac. She was a great helper when he was a baby, but once he became a toddler and didn't go away... well, we had the whacking of the head things too. She's 11 now and Zac is 6. We had a head whacking just today.<BR/>I struggled with the same feeling you are, too. You can still have special moments with just Kylie... but now you get to have all new moments with Caleb... and Caleb and Kylie. You will be amazed just how much love you have to go around! <BR/>I love you and I am praying for you!Amy Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12879386360095248676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-69215899566289592062008-11-14T17:41:00.000-05:002008-11-14T17:41:00.000-05:00Oh Kristi, Thank you for being so honest - in just...Oh Kristi, Thank you for being so honest - in just a short time things will look different and you WILL look back and wonder if it ever was this bad! (I hope we look back and laugh, ha) There is no doubt other families are feeling the exact same and so appreciate knowing they are not alone. Our struggles are different with four older kiddos but oh there are days I too would like to curl up in a fetal position lock the door and go to sleep, ha! Love, HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16262428927015626764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-51111165743679357622008-11-14T16:36:00.000-05:002008-11-14T16:36:00.000-05:00Oh Kristi, change of adding a new family member is...Oh Kristi, change of adding a new family member is enough let alone not have your husband around to help some, I can't imagine that one! Praying for you. It sounds strange to say, but every day is a step forward and you will all find your way together! <BR/>{hugs}Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10035014932111024923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-89556270954608263142008-11-14T16:01:00.000-05:002008-11-14T16:01:00.000-05:00You will be in my thoughts and prayers as you adju...You will be in my thoughts and prayers as you adjust to having another blessing in your family. The feelings you have sound completely normal to me. I think every parent feels this way when they add to their family. The dynamics change, but the love doesn't.<BR/>Blessings to you and your family.<BR/>ReginaReginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04103873560916325532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544456.post-18293949300906411262008-11-14T15:54:00.000-05:002008-11-14T15:54:00.000-05:00Oh girl...hang in there. I think all of your feel...Oh girl...hang in there. I think all of your feelings are so normal and Miss Kylie will find her way. Yes, your changes have been so many and your life will return to the "new" normal again. I pray that Ian's trip to TX is swift and he can come home soon to have GREAT family time! <BR/>Praying for you!Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10997055352511655162noreply@blogger.com